Learn To Let Your Self Esteem Flourish
If you suffer from a sense of low self esteem and lack of self worth, it doesn’t have to hold you back Indefinitely. You can develop a positive self image of yourself, in fact, it is essential to living a fulfilling and effective life.
How do you know if you have low self esteem?
Are worried about what others think of you?
Is speaking out in front of others a really hard thing to do?
Are you always putting others needs first before your own?
Do you feel you have not achieved much in your life?
Have you got many self doubts?
If you answered yes to one or more of the above, you’re self esteem could do with a boost.
Small children need affirmation from parents, teachers and friends. Everyone benefits from love and acceptance from the important people around them. When you receive love and positive regard from other people it helps you to flourish and fel good about yourself, but you also need positive self regard.
When you have positive self regard you have the confidence to test things out and trust your own inner experience. Positive self regard is a sure foundation for making good decisions about how you will live your life.
But positive self-regard can be a fragile thing, especially when you are young, and it is so easily affected by the negative evaluations of other people. It’s all too easy to ignore your own inner evaluations in favour of getting the love and affirmation you crave from others. When you start to see yourself as others view you and rely on their evaluations to determine your sense of acceptance and level of self worth, it puts you at their mercy. Abandoning your own judgement of self can cause your emotional well being to be determined by what other people think about you. You give away control of how you feel to the people around you.
"I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time.” Anna Freud
Having low self esteem may cause you to:
Feel unclear about who you really are
Feel Despondent and lonely
Find social situations hard and feel acutely shy
Have a poor self image and only able to focus on the negatives
Be unsure of what you really want or desire in your life
Cling to relationships that are not good for you
Trying by yourself to boost your own flagging self esteem and and learning to look to what is inside yourself and trust your own evaluations is hard and can feel like an overwhelming task.
When you work with a counsellor you will find you are respected and not judged, really listened to and not given advice or unwanted opinions. Counselling creates a safe relationship where you can begin to find and recapture your true self, and begin to believe and trust in your own inner experience to guide and help you make decisions.
Your self confidence will grow and you will attract people to you that will offer more positive healthy relationships, sharing mutual encouragement and growth.
If you would like to book a session or simply find out more about my services, please call
Robyn on 07506879747, or email me at robyn@clearwaterscounselling.com
If you still have trouble trying to better your self esteem, using affirmations throughout every day is an effective method for boosting esteem. Positive affirmations are self-esteem boosters, but they are also a great way to give yourself a dose of positive energy.
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Posted by: Kc | 26 December 2010 at 05:24 PM